Rewiring
Our innate traits for thriving
We are wired for play.
We are wired for joy.
We are wired, curious and creative.
We are wired for connection and love.
We are wired with an appreciation of beauty.
We are wired for presence.
We are wired for adventure.
We are wired for health.
We are meant to thrive.
And yet, so many people, myself included, find ourselves perpetuating states of survival.
People living in states of distraction, disorientation, and dysregulation. So many people are living disembodied, dissociated from their inner world, disengaged with their own needs, disempowered by our own limiting beliefs and the fear mongering/control based messaging of the broken external systems and paradigms— all of which sends signals of survival to our individual and collective nervous system/consciousness.
We humans (mammals/animals) are of course also wired for survival but not the type of survival patterning our sickened society has sold. We aren't able to fully digest all the lies we’ve been told, and maybe rather than all the effort to improve our ability to “eliminate” we must reorient toward and reawaken to our inborn wiring for thriving.
We aren't meant to live from a place of survival, that prevents us from actually living.
Mother's play a critical role in this metamorphosis from survival mode to thriving. We must embody the change we wish to see in the world, not just for our own well-being but as hope for our children's futures to be brighter and more bold.
Our babes came here to show us what feeling whole looks like, we are meant to tend to their sense of whole, to their sense of belonging just as they are, we can foster their sense of worthiness and love or we can watch as the world we live in strips it away. Our children are in-our-face reminders of what our wiring looks like before it is corrupted and coerced. Even as they arrive completely dependent and premature in their development, they have the wiring for thriving. It is our role to be safe keepers and guardians, of their innate ability to thrive, allowing the space and pace for it fully come on-line.
Our most critical role is to allow our children to expand and explore their unique geniuses, their soul's purpose and path, to see them for who they are; and in order to do this we must not stifle neither their spirits nor our own.
Wholeness and our ability to thrive is modeled in allowing the full spectrum of human emotions in our relationship with each other and ourselves. Whole doesn't mean perfect, but rather it is shown in resilience and repair made when we misstep or misspeak. Whole is echoed in play, joy and love; and also in grief, frustration, or impatience. Whole is the integration of both light and dark, feminine and masculine energy. Thriving is embodied in our pursuit of living meaningful, purposeful lives; in the honoring and tending to our wiring for: play, joy, curiosity, creativity, connection, love, appreciation of beauty, presence, adventure, and health.
Sometimes we fail to thrive because we are overly attached to suffering.
I have had the realization that while tending to my trauma, that while staying committed to taking full responsibility for my emotions and actions— that by allowing myself to die, shed, and rebirth repeatedly, almost constantly– I have been stuck in a state of surviving my own healing.
Stuck in the very patterns I have been trying to overcome, because I sort of forgot that I am here to live.
With a sense of desperation it seems I have spent far too much time trying to retrieve the medicine from my wounds, rather than spending time receiving the magic of each beautiful moment.
I have caught myself in this act before, I have recognized growing weary on my love warriors march, because I was over validating the necessity of “feeling all my feelings,” based on the notion they would eventually lose their grip on me if I just “tried harder” to be with my grief. Based on the belief that repressed emotions have to be expressed, which I do believe, but good God there has to be reprieve in the process!
By “going all in,” I seem to have lost some of my grip on enjoying, appreciating and revering my life with gratitude; maybe even more so than I would like to admit.
But as I write that, I witness a harshness with myself, as if I am saying I have been totally joyless or void of positive emotions, which is certainly not the case. It is more so that I am aware of a need to shift into balance by placing more of my attention and intention on joyously living, rather than continually healing by constantly “sitting with my shadow.”
Staying in this state of hypervigilance around healing my wounds, is a survival pattern.
Laughing, playing, dancing, singing, painting, cooking, frolicking, connecting with dear friends, learning new things for the simple joy of it and not to be “better;” this is what I am called to do now.
This invitation to step into energies of higher frequency is always present, it is a matter of doing so intentionally, of redirecting our attention to the generous present moment, leaning all the way in with open hearts and minds; broadening our focus to the full spectrum of love and light we are meant to experience.
The noble truth I have encountered is that I intimately know my fears, doubts, worries, anxieties, sources of anger and grief AND now I am called to rewire thriving from both the wisdom of my wounds AND time spent away from the underworld.
It is time to more fully embody play, joy, and love.
Collective healing can and will occur not only when each of us accepts and takes responsibility for our own trauma responses but also and perhaps more importantly, true healing of our earth and society will occur when we each take radical responsibility for cultivating our own happiness and health.
Not through the externalization or “pursuit of health and happiness” but through intentional cultivation of our health and happiness.
You do not have to chase what is already inside you.
We each must get real about the role we play in our own suffering and stop cycles of self punishment and self destruction, for the resurrection of our Spirits.
We each must actively and consciously choose joy, wonder, delight, love and play; actively feeling gratitude within as many moments of each day that we are lucky to be alive in our physical form.
This is not to suggest that we will not feel sad, stressed, frustrated, fearful or any of the lower frequencies but it is to suggest that we rebound faster and catch ourselves if we are staying stuck in states of suffering.
If we need an example of living this way we need look no further than our children as an example. When children are regarded as capable, when their autonomy and creativity are honored, when they feel safe they are wiring programs for thriving. When they are seen as free spirited, endlessly curious, creative, full of wonder, and able to learn as they play they remain more whole. Children of course also have their fair share of big emotions but if you are able to witness them (without reactivity,) in their conflicts, squabbles, in their desire for sovereignty, and in their states of emotional overwhelm; you will also see and support their innate ability to bounce right back, to move on to the next thing, to rediscover their delight just as soon as they wipe the boogers and tears from their cheeks.
Just watch them.
One moment kids (especially siblings lol) could be fighting with each other over the same object, the very next they are using it cooperatively as it becomes a tool for their wild uninhibited imaginations. Children will turn a walk in the woods into an otherworldly adventure, watch them as they turn a tree into a house or a climbing structure and you become an observer of the firing and wiring of the neural networks we were meant to operate from.
It's time to rewire our innate human traits collectively!
In our modern convenience based culture we have become far too inconvenienced by moving at the pace of children's innocence, at the speed of their curiosity, at a tempo appropriate to their developmental readiness. We have come to expect too much from children and as we pressure both them and ourselves to “be more, faster.” This express-track has led to growing up too fast, and of course we are meant to mature but in so doing, were we meant to lose our zest for life just because we face greater responsibilities?
We have lost ourselves in comparing and competing and in that we've lost each other.
We’ve become so caught up in the energies of urgency and production, that we have lost the ancient wisdom and importance of moving at the pace of and in alignment with the rhythms of nature.
Collectively we swim against the current of life, when life is beckoning us to float with more ease downstream.
We've become so hard that we forget to be soft.
So success and material driven that we’ve lost the pulse and potential of what is waiting for us in the vast unknown.
So focused on fighting— on declaring things/people right or wrong— that we struggle to feel our interconnection.
We have polarized ourselves— We’ve fallen for the illusion of separation.
Is this what we want for our children?
Do we really want to keep on just surviving ourselves and each other?
Or are we ready to tap into the intelligence of our wiring for thriving?
I am confident that neither I nor Humanity will heal or return to whole by harping on our hurts or by continuing to live in states of scarcity, separation, and survival; it is far past time for us all to unite and refocus on our innate goodness and oneness.
It's time we learn to live, laugh, and play— even in the face of harsh realities.
As I move myself out of a state of personal imbalance, out of another round of shedding— I am shifting my focus to rewiring.
Rewiring from a place of elevated emotion rather than excavation of old pain.
Rewiring my ability to learn through play by playing more.
Rewiring my appreciation of beauty by surrounding myself with even more beauty and by staying present enough to notice what has always been inside me.
Rewiring connection by spending more time with like-minded and funny friends.
Rewiring by switching my focal point from my “flaws” to my strengths.
Rewiring by moving through the world with wide eyes of wonder like a child, letting myself flourish by remaining curious about the unknown.
Rewiring by releasing control of myself and others.
Rewiring by laughing louder and more often.
Rewiring by thinking brand new thoughts.
Rewiring by consciously choosing to generate elevated emotions from my heart space on a daily basis.
Rewiring by witnessing what my children model and asking my mirror neurons to fire in response to their cues.
Rewiring the deep knowing that— we are meant to thrive.
May you feel just as much if not more joy than you allow sadness.
May you offer compassion to yourself and others for our inevitable pains.
May you witness and revere your wholeness.
May you and I learn to live as one.
MAY WE THRIVE.
I see you, I hear you, I feel you, I love you.
Mamaste Well,
Rose